There are different ways of getting what you want. One way is obviously by developing merit to such a level that you deserve what you want and then get it. Another way is in which someone else gifts it to you. And yet another set of ways may be in which the desired object is obtained by using unfair means. In the beginning, it may look as if the ways other than developing merit are easier. It may look very nice if someone gifts you something that you need very much. Or by using unfair means and by taking help in unfair way from others you may obtain the desirable in somewhat easy way. But if you don’t have the required merit to get that you will feel uncomfortable holding that for long. You cannot target to develop yourself like that. And once again it’s matter of making one’s habit. If you develop the tendency of getting what you desire in easy way without deserving that, then you will get it once or twice. In the long run you will be the looser because of a wrong ...

  In the 1960's and then in the 1970's, an experiment was conducted at Stanford University, which is now famously called the  Marshmallow Experiment .    Quoting Wikipedia:  They presented four-year-olds with a marshmallow and told the children that they had two options: (1) ring a bell at any point to summon the experimenter and eat the marshmallow, or (2) wait until the experimenter returned about 15 minutes later, and earn two marshmallows instead. The message was: "small reward now, bigger reward later." Many kids gave in to the temptation and ate the marshmallow and others waited for 15 minutes and earned two. The kids that participated in the experiment were monitored for the rest of their lives (and in fact are being monitored even now) and it was found that the kids that did manage to wait for 15 minutes have been consistently doing better than the ones that didn't in almost all aspects of life.  Quoting Wikipedia again: The children w...